When independence goes wrong

I love that song. Truer words were never spoken if you ask me. Here's the thing, though, how much is too much? Don't get me wrong, a little--maybe even a lot of independence is good, but when you cross the line from Ms.Independent to Ms.I'msoindependentandscornedthatImask-
-mylonelinesswithminusculeachievementsbecauseIdon'tneednoman start seeking help...seriously. Sadly, the latter is more common (at least in my experience) and it's especially common in black women. Now, now, I'm not knocking the mother-fathers out there, working hard to compensate for the faults of the sperm donor. I'm talking about the woman with no child, turning her nose up at every man that approaches her, wanting to be a man. Let a man be a man, woman! It's no wonder you're single, when out the gate you're hitting guys with the pigeon-like neck movement,hand waving, and sassy words of "I don't need you, I got my own!" Yeah...REAL attractive. So let's see...how can I help you with your independence? For starters, you can apply the rule "silence is golden." Yes. Simply put, shut the fuck up! Don't spend my time and yours, tooting your own horn. I'm happy you can hold your own. Really, I am. But until you shut up, your independence will be more of a deterrent than bad breath and a lot of "H" words. Secondly, don't let let a man trip over your baggage. Sure, your scorn is the reason that drives you to be in it for you, but remember, a relationship on any level takes two, not you.Hey, that rhymed! Any who, constantly lamenting about how this one and that one did you wrong makes for good conversation sometimes, but really? Do you really want to lay your baggage out like a fresh mine field, waiting to be stepped on? I would certainly hope not. Again, I say, let the man be a man, even if he isn't. It wouldn't kill you to at least let him think he has some power. Lastly, stay away from cats. What do cat's have to do with any of this,right? Well, lets just say if you keep pushing good men away with your independence that your future will look like this: